One of the best strategies for tackling the leadership crisis in our state is the simple act of encouraging potential leaders to lead. It’s the act of tapping someone on the shoulder and giving them the nudge, encouragement, and belief. It’s the gesture of giving a student a “set of keys” with the statement, “You’d make a great principal some day.” Although these moves may seem simple at face value, they actually result in the beginning of a ripple that moves through the system forever.
I wouldn’t have the honor to be serving as the Executive Director of AWSP if it wasn’t for a few nudges, taps, and words of encouragement from leaders who saw leadership potential so many years ago. I can actually picture the people, moments, and even the words spoken that gave me the belief that I could go from Spanish teacher to an assistant principal, assistant principal to principal, and principal to a statewide leadership position at AWSP. With each transition, I can see the faces of those who not only said I could, but that I should.
Many of the leaders who’ve influenced my career have been there for the entire leadership journey, each playing a part in the training, preparation, encouragement, and most of all, instilling the belief and confidence to lead. I was pushed into deep reflection last week on those influences in my life with the announcement of the passing of Dr. Gay Selby.
Dr. Selby was a legend whose influence on others across our state and country is truly unmeasurable. I can honestly say that I wouldn’t be where I am now without her tireless support and the legendary Dr. Gay Selby velvet gloves.
We all speak into the lives of others with our own style and Dr. Selby certainly had hers. When she spoke, you listened. If she said do something, you did. If she gave critical feedback, it was spot on. And, when you received praise, you knew it was authentic and from the heart. She had a knack for passing along her wisdom, expertise, and learned experiences in a way that helped countless generations of leaders be more successful and sustainable. You don’t have to dig too far to find the positive influence of Dr. Gay Selby behind many of the great leaders in our state.
As I mourn one of the greatest influences in my life, I will also celebrate that influence. I will commit to keeping the ripple of her effect on me rolling through the system and I encourage you all to do the same. We can all honor Dr. Gay Selby by living and leading in the way she taught us – a relentless belief in the power and impact of great leadership. Thank you, Dr. Selby, for always believing in me, tapping me on the shoulder, and never letting me doubt my potential.